What to teach, when.

All of this meets the criteria of the National Sex Education Standards (NSES, second addition)

  • Each of these should be learned before completing second grade. Average age range is five through eight.

    Consent & Healthy Relationships

    • Core Concepts

      • Describe characteristics of a friend

      • Define bodily autonomy and personal boundaries

      • Define consent

      • Identify different kinds of families

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate how to communicate personal boundaries and show respect for someone else’s personal boundaries

      • Explain why it is important to show respect for different kinds of families

    • Self-Management

      • Identify healthy ways for friends to express feelings both physically and verbally

    • Advocacy

      • Demonstrate asking a trusted adult when consent and boundaries are not respected

    Anatomy & Physiology

    • Core Concepts

      • List medically accurate names for body parts, including genitals

    Puberty & Adolescent Sexual Development

    • Core Concepts

      • Understanding that their body will continue to grow and change

    Gender Identity & Expression

    • Core Concepts

      • Define gender, gender identity, and gender role stereotypes

      • Discuss the range in which people express their gender and how gender role stereotypes may limit behavior

    Sexual Orientation & Identity

    • Core Concepts

      • Understanding that attraction comes in all forms

    Sexual Health

    • Core Concepts

      • Define reproduction and explain that all living things may have the capacity to reproduce

    Interpersonal Violence

    • Core Concepts

      • Define child sexual abuse and identity behaviors that would be considered child sexual abuse

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Identity situations that may be uncomfortable or dangerous

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate ways to treat all people with dignity and respect

    • Decision Making

      • Demonstrate ways to start a conversation when seeking help from a trusted adult about an uncomfortable or dangerous situation

  • Each of these should be met before completing fifth grade. Average age range is eight through eleven.

    Consent & Healthy Relationships

    • Core Concepts

      • Describe the characteristics of healthy vs. unhealthy relationships among friends and with family

      • Explain the relationship between consent, personal, and bodily autonomy

    • Accessing Information

      • Identify trusted adults, including parents and caregivers, that students can talk to about relationships

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Communicate personal boundaries and demonstrate ways to respect other people’s personal boundaries

    Anatomy & Physiology

    • Core Concepts

      • Recall the human reproductive systems, including the external and internal body parts and their functions, and that there are natural variations in human bodies

    Puberty & Adolescent Sexual Development

    • Core Concepts

      • Explain the physical, social, and emotional changes that occur during puberty and adolescence and how the onset and progression of puberty can vary

      • Describe how puberty prepares human bodies for the potential to reproduce and that some healthy people have conditions that impact the ability to reproduce

      • Explain common sexual development and the role of hormones

      • Describe the role hormones play in the physical, social, cognitive, and emotional changes during adolescence and potential role of hormone blockers on young people who identify as transgender

    • Accessing Information

      • Identify credible sources of information about puberty and personal hygiene

      • Identify trusted adults whom to ask questions about puberty and adolescent health

    • Goal Setting

      • Make a plan for maintaining personal hygiene during puberty

    Gender Identity & Expression

    • Core Concepts

      • Distinguish between sex assigned at birth and gender identity and explain how they may or may not differ

      • Define and explain differences between cisgender, transgender, nonbinary, gender expansive, and gender identity

      • Explain that gender expression and gender identity exist on a spectrum

      • Describe gender role stereotypes and their potential impact on self and others

    • Accessing Information

      • Identify trusted adults whom to ask questions about gender, gender role stereotypes, gender identity, and gender expression

    • Advocacy

      • Demonstrate ways to promote dignity and respect for people of all genders, gender expressions, and gender identities

    Sexual Orientation & Identity

    • Core Concepts

      • Define sexual orientation

      • Differentiate between sexual orientation and gender identity

    • Accessing Information

      • Identify trusted adults whom to ask questions about sexual orientation

    • Advocacy

      • Demonstrate ways to promote dignity and respect for people of all sexual orientations

    Sexual Health

    • Core Concepts

      • Explain the relationship between sexual intercourse and human reproduction

      • Explain the range of ways pregnancy can occur

      • Define STIs and STDs, including HIV, and clarify common myths about transmission

    Interpersonal Violence

    • Core Concepts

      • Define child sexual abuse, sexual harassment, and domestic violence and explain why they are harmful and their potential impacts

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Identify strategies a person could use to call attention to or leave an uncomfortable or dangerous situation

      • Explain that some survivors are not believed when they disclose sexual abuse or harassment and that it is important to keep telling trusted adults until one of the adults takes action

    • Self-Management

      • Describe steps a person can take when they are being or have been sexually abused

    • Advocacy

      • Demonstrate ways to promote dignity and respect for all people; regardless of their race, ethnicity, socioeconomic status, differing abilities, immigration status, family configuration, etc.

  • Each of these should be met before completing eighth grade. Average age range is eleven through fourteen.

    Consent & Healthy Relationships

    • Core Concepts

      • Compare and contrast the characteristics of healthy and unhealthy relationships

      • Describe how power differences may impact relationships

      • Analyze the similarities and differences between friendships, romantic relationships, and sexual relationships

      • Define sexual consent and sexual agency

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, culture, and a person’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes, beliefs, and expectations about relationships

      • Evaluate the impact of technology and social media on relationships

      • Identify factors that can affect the ability to give or perceive consent to sexual activity

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate communication skills that support healthy relationships

      • Demonstrate strategies to communicate personal boundaries and how to show respect for the boundaries of others

    • Self-Management

      • Describe strategies a student can use to end an unhealthy relationship, including involving a trusted adult who can help

      • Demonstrate strategies to use social media safely, legally, and respectfully

    Anatomy & Physiology

    • Core Concepts

      • Describe human reproductive systems, their function, and that there are natural occurring variations in human bodies

    Puberty & Adolescent Sexual Development

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Define peer pressure and identify ways to navigate this type of coercive behavior

    • Accessing Information

      • Define medically accuracy and analyze medically accurate sources of information about puberty, adolescent development, and sexual health

    Gender Identity & Expression

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, culture, and a person’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes, beliefs, and expectations about gender, gender identity, gender roles, and gender expression

    • Accessing Information

      • Access medically accurate sources of informationabout gender, gender identity, and gender expression

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate ways to communicate respectfully with and about people of all gender identities

    • Advocacy

      • Develop a plan for the school to promote dignity and respect for people of all genders, gender identities, and gender expressions in the school community

    Sexual Orientation & Identity

    • Core Concepts

      • Recall the definitions of sexual orientation and explain that most, but not all, people have a sexual orientation

      • Define sexual identity and explain a range of identities related to sexual orientations

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, culture, and a person’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes, beliefs, and expectation about sexual orientation

    • Accessing Information

      • Access credible sources of information about sexual orientation

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate ways to communicate respectfully with and about people of all sexual orientations

    • Advocacy

      • Develop a plan for the school to promote dignity and respect for people of all sexual orientations in the school community

    Sexual Health

    • Core Concepts

      • Define vaginal, oral, and anal sex

      • Explain there are many methods of short- and long- term contraceptives that are safe and effective and describe how to access them

      • List at least four methods of contraception that are available without a prescription

      • Describe pregnancy testing, the signs of pregnancy, and pregnancy options, including abortion

      • Compare and contrast behaviors to determine the potential risk of pregnancy and/or STI/STD, including HIV, transmission

      • Discuss current biomedical approaches to prevent STIs/STDs, including HIV

      • Explain medical breakthroughs in HIV prevention and treatment and why HIV can now be considered a chronic condition

      • Describe the state and federal laws related to minors’ access to sexual healthcare services, including pregnancy and STI/STD prevention, testing, care, and treatment

      • Define racism and intersectionality and describe their impacts on sexual health

      • Explain the impact that media, including sexually explicit media, can have on one’s body image and self-esteem

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how alcohol and other substances can influence sexual decision making

      • Describe the state and federal laws related to age of consent, minors’ ability to consent to healthcare, confidentiality in healthcare settings, child pornography, sexting, safe haven, and sex trafficking

    • Accessing Information

      • Identify medically accurate sources of information about STIs/STDs, including HIV, such as local prevention, testing, and treatment resources

      • Define prenatal care and identify medically accurate sources of information about prenatal care

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate ways to communicate decisions about whether or when to engage in sexual behaviors and how to reduce or eliminate risks for pregnancy and’or STIs/STDs, including HIV

    • Decision Making

      • Identify factors that are important in deciding whether and when to engage in sexual behaviors

    • Goal Setting

      • Develop a plan to eliminate or reduce risk of unintended pregnancy and STIs/STDs, including HIV

    • Self-Management

      • Describe the steps to using barrier methods correctly

    Interpersonal Violence

    • Core Concepts

      • Define interpersonal and sexual violence and describe their impacts on sexual health

      • Explain why a person who has been sexually harassed, abused, or assaulted, or has been victim to or survived incest, rape, domestic violence, or dating violence in never to blame for the actions of the perpetrator

      • Describe sex trafficking, sexual exploitation, and gender based violence

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Define strategies that sex traffickers and exploiters employ to recruit youth

      • Accessing Information

      • Identify community resources and/or other sources of support that students can go to if they are or someone they know is being sexually harassed, abused, assaulted, exploited, or trafficked

    • Self-Management

      • Describe strategies a person could use, when it is safe to do so, to intervene when someone is being sexually harassed or someone they know is perpetuating unhealthy or coercive behaviors

    • Advocacy

      • Develop a plan for the school to promote dignity and respect for all survivors

  • Each of these should be met before completing tenth grade. Average age range is fourteen through sixteen.

    Consent & Healthy Relationships

    • Core Concepts

      • Compare and contrast characteristics of healthy and unhealthy romantic and/or sexual relationships

      • Describe what constitutes sexual consent, its importance, and legal consequences of sexual behavior without consent

      • Explain the impact media, including sexually explicit media, can have on one’s perceptions of and expectations for a healthy relationship

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Evaluate strategies to end an unhealthy relationship, including when situations may require an adult and/or professional support

      • Analyze the potentially positive and negative roles of technology and social media on one’s sense of self and within relationships

      • Analyze factors that can affect the ability to give and receive consent

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Describe effective ways to communicate consent, personal boundaries, and desires as they relate to intimacy, pleasure, and sexual behavior

    • Decision Making

      • Evaluate a variety of characteristics of romantic and’or sexual relationships and determine which ones are personally most important

    • Goal Setting

      • Develop a plan to get out of an unsafe or unhealthy relationship

    • Self-Management

      • Demonstrate ways to show respect for the boundaries of others as they relate to intimacy and sexual behavior

    Anatomy & Physiology

    • Core Concepts

      • Explain the human reproductive and sexual response systems, including differentiating between internal and external body parts and their functions and that there are natural occurring variations in human bodies

    Puberty & Adolescent Sexual Development

    • Core Concepts

      • Describe the cognitive, social, and emotional changes of adolescence and early adulthood

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, culture, and a person’s intersecting identities can influence self-concept, body image, and self-esteem

    Gender Identity & Expression

    • Core Concepts

      • Differentiate between sex assigned at birth, gender identity, and gender expression

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how media, society, culture, and one’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes, beliefs, and expectations about gender, gender identity, gender roles, and gender expression

    Sexual Orientation & Identity

    • Core Concepts

      • Differentiate between sexual orientation, sexual behavior, and sexual identity

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, culture, and one’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes, beliefs, and expectations about sexual orientation and sexual identity

    • Accessing Information

      • Access credible sources of information about sexual orientation

    Sexual Health

    • Core Concepts

      • Compare and contrast the advantages and disadvantages of contraceptives and disease prevention methods

      • Identify factors that impact the risk of unintended pregnancy and potential transmission of STIs/STDs, including HIV, from a variety of sexual behaviors, including vaginal, oral, and anal sex

      • Describe common symptoms, or lack thereof, and treatments for STIs/STDs, including HIV

      • List the major milestones of each trimester of fetal development utilizing medically accurate information

      • Explain the state and federal laws related to safe haven, parenting, and sterilization, including their impacts on oppressed communities

      • Define reproductive justice and explain its history and how it relates to sexual health

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze state and federal laws and guidelines that address sexual healthcare services for minors

      • Explain the federal and state laws that prohibit the creation, sharing, and viewing of sexually explicit media by minors, including sexting

    • Accessing Information

      • Identify medically accurate sources of information about and local services that provide contraceptive methods and pregnancy options, including abortion

      • Identify medically accurate sources of information about and local services that provide prevention, testing, care, and treatment of STIs/STDs, including HIV

    • Goal Setting

      • Describe the steps for how a person living with HIV can remain healthy

    Interpersonal Violence

    • Core Concepts

      • Identify the state and federal laws related to intimate partner and sexual violence

      • Describe the types of abuse and the cycle of violence as it relates to sexual abuse, domestic violence, dating violence, and gender based violence

      • Explain why a victim or survivor of interpersonal violence, including sexual violence, is never to blame for the actions of the perpetrator

      • Explain sex trafficking, including recruitment tactics, that sex traffickers and exploiters use to exploit vulnerabilities and recruit youth

    • Accessing Information

      • Demonstrate how to access credible sources of information and resources for survivors of interpersonal violence, including sexual violence

      • Identify credible resources related to sex trafficking and sexual violence prevention and intervention

    • Interpersonal Communication

      • Demonstrate ways to support a fellow student who is being sexually harassed or abused, or is perpetuating unhealthy or coercive behaviors

    • Identify ways to reduce risk in physical and digital settings related to sex trafficking and other potentially harmful situations

  • Each of these should be met before completing twelfth grade. Average age range is sixteen through eighteen.

    Consent & Healthy Relationships

    • Core Concepts

      • Describe the characteristics of unhealthy relationships that media, including sexually explicit media, may perpetuate

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how media portrayals of healthy and unhealthy relationships impact societal norms about romantic and/or sexual relationships and pleasure

      • Analyze cultural and social factors that can influence decisions regarding sexual behaviors

      • Describe the potential impacts of power and privilege within romantic or sexual relationships

      • Analyze the personal and societal factors that could keep someone from leaving an unhealthy relationship

    • Decision Making

      • Apply a decision-making model to maintaining a healthy relationship and/or ending an unhealthy relationship

    • Self-Management

      • Evaluate strategies to use social media safely, legally, and respectfully

    Anatomy & Physiology

    • Core Concepts

      • Describe the human sexual response cycle, including the role of hormones and pleasure

    Gender Identity & Expression

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Explain how support from peers, families, schools, and communities can improve a person’s health and well-being as it relates to gender identity and gender expression

    • Advocacy

      • Advocate for school and community policies and programs that promote dignity and respect for people of all genders, gender expressions, and gender identities

    Sexual Orientation & Identity

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Explain how support from peers, families, schools, and communities can improve a person’s health and well-being as it relates to sexual orientation and sexual identity

    • Advocacy

      • Advocate for school and community policies and programs that promote dignity and respect for people of all sexual orientations and sexual identities

    Sexual Health

    • Core Concepts

      • Evaluate the benefits of biomedical approaches to prevent STIs/STDs , including HIV

      • Explain the importance of lowering the viral load of a person living with HIV to undetectable and maintaining viral suppression

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze personal and societal factors that can influence decisions about pregnancy options, including abortion

      • Analyze factors that can influence condom use and other safer sex decisions

      • Analyze the impact of stigma and conscious and unconscious biases on pregnancy and STI/STD, including HIV, prevention, testing, and treatment

      • Analyze state and federal laws related to minors’ ability to give and receive sexual consent and their association with sexually explicit media

      • Analyze ways systemic oppression and intersectionality impact the sexual agency of communities of color and other marginalized communities

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, and a person’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes and beliefs about interpersonal and sexual violence

    Interpersonal Violence

    • Analyzing Influences

      • Analyze how peers, family, media, society, culture, and a person’s intersecting identities can influence attitudes and beliefs about interpersonal and sexual violence

    • Advocacy

      • Advocate for school and community policies that promote safety, respect, and equality to all victims and survivors